The Ultimate Relationship Guide
Georgene Summers is not just another entrepreneur or Fashion Maven…she is an accomplished author and life coach as well who has assisted countless women in changing their lives for the better.
This book on relationships is a must for anyone who is in one, would like to be in one, is out of one and suffering or just wants some sound advice on what to do with this thing called DATING. That dreaded word that says “I am available and don’t want to be any longer.”
"Too often women measure the value of their lives by the success or failure of their relationships with men. Realize there are no failures, only opportunities to learn in a classroom called "relationships" with a teacher called man. Use this opportunity and the wealth of knowledge gained to learn and improve the quality of your life."
The Dating Dance...
The Dating Dance: Confessions of the Spider and the Fly by: Georgene Summers
Excerpt:
"Trust in yourself. You are your own best friend. You must believe that you know all the answers. The only thing that stands between you and the truth about everything and anything you want or need to know, is a quiet space that allows you to hear. Listen to yourself. You are wise beyond your own understanding. Sometimes it may be difficult for you to comprehend just how powerful you really are, so let go and just know that it's true.”
Excerpt:
"We grow up yearning for those never-forgotten feelings of love, of being nurtured by our parents, whether real or imagined, from near or at arms’ length. This craving for regular emotional injections is so great at times it seems almost insatiable. It becomes a burning desire, to be loved; to be cared for; to be wanted; in spite of the fact that, so often, the person parceling out the feelings is a totally inappropriate partner. Under other circumstances, were we not so blinded by this need, we would clearly see the underlying problems so evident to others."
Excerpt:"We sleep with someone we've just met because we don't know how to say no and not feel or be rejected. The thought that physical sex translates to being loved and being desired is just that, a thought. We want to believe that the sweet words being said come from the heart and not from the groin. This can be our salvation from the "singles" scene. However, relationships built on a foundation of sand erode quickly, and the "love" that we are feeling one moment, can turn to anger, depression and disappointment the next."
Excerpt:"Don't get angry. You lose power when you lost control. The easiest thing to do when a man's behavior needs improvement is to let him have it with both guns. Those times when he's uttered words so thoughtless you wonder if he even lives on this planet; when he shows you so little tenderness, consideration, love, kindness, compassion, respect, regard or thought that you don't even want to give him notice of this impending "Gunfight at OK Corral." In your mind it seems much better to just draw and shoot aiming for the heart, if he has one. There should be no warning, you just want to blast away. Yes, at first glance that does seem to be a good course of action, but is it the right course to gain what you want?"
Excerpt:
"How have we as women contributed to the current climate that makes a man think he can get away with this type of behavior?
Possibly in our hunger to be part of a couple, we believe too much of what we hear; trust too prematurely; fail to look at or pay attention to red flags; are swept away too quickly by compliments and coupling conversation.
We have paraded carelessly into the bedroom seemingly blinded by our own desire to have someone in our lives. We yearn to be adored, loved and cared for by someone, almost anyone. This has contributed to the male attitude that there will always be another train coming through the station.
Our growth is accelerated when we give up the belief that we "must"have a man in our lives to be complete. What a deceitful notion that we "need"the company of a male to make us feel desirable, fulfilled or complete. We come into this life complete and undiminished. When we deviate from that belief to accomplish marriage or a relationship, we can be shattered."
Excerpt:
"For the first few dates never let a man pick you up at your home. No feminism here, just a safety tip. Why not ensure that you will be safe from a vice-grip at the door or those uncomfortable confrontations with the man of a thousand hands. It is a great way to get a little information and still protect your privacy from some potential clown.
There is nothing wrong and everyting right about protecting your privacy and you. To allow a man to pick you up in the beginning of a dating relationship is foolish and unnecessary. We know of the timeless adages about the woman being collected, taken out for dinner, paid for and then brought home. It is out there in black and white in coutnless books.
The serious problem with those adages is this: when your Grandmother and Mother recouunted those stories with relentless pleasure, women held a somewhat different place in society. They were more protected from a family and societal standpoint. Today's woman is more at risk for a variety of reasons. The availability of sexually explicit material; excessive incidents of date rape; less intervention of the family; more women working and living alone; the difficulty in proving rape of any type; the demand for equality from women.
I think that these factors have made it more difficult for women. As a protective device, have the man meet you at a public place, the restaurant, movie, coffee shop, book store, bowling alley.
That way you don't leave yourself open to a wrestling match at the door with a total stranger.
You might well find that eliminating the tiring "nightcap" routine or the passionate kisses being pushed on you at the door is well worth the discomfort of driving to the restaurant by yourself. It is also a great way to get rid of the date from hell.
